” In the end, only three things matter: How much you loved, How gently you lived, and How gracefully you let go of the things not meant for you. “
Usually, I think it’s silly to try and condense life down to three easy steps. Life is vast, complicated and unpredictable. Sometimes life just doesn’t make any sense.
Another way in which I look at this quote is:
” In the end these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you live? How deeply did you let go? “
Still it’s a good piece of advice, no matter how it is worded. So lets look at it.
First thing that matters is how much you loved. I think what is being said here is it’s important to allow love to be the basis for our thoughts, words and deeds. We should be able to treat anyone with loving kindness, even if they are not related to us or in a relationship with us – in fact, especially if they are not. Treating people with love doesn’t have to mean letting people into our lives. It may simply mean refraining from judging a person. This is often harder than it looks.
Second thing that matters is how gently you lived. Ok so what does this mean ? Amm… the way I can look at it is- the best way to live a life is by leaving a small footprint on the earth instead of leaving behind a big mess for others to clean up.
Third thing that matters is letting go of things. This is something according to me that matters the most because there are hell lot of things in this world that we need to let go of. I guess money and material possessions are at the top of my list in the things to let go of. Why ? Because you cant take them with you once your tenure on this planet ends. Making it simple, you cant carry your money and other precious items once you are dead. So why not now ?
Next thing that one should learn to let go of is the relationships. This is another thing that people find extremely difficult to let go of. On this planet we all came alone when we were born and have to go alone when we die. So no matter how much you love someone or how much someone is precious to you, best thing that should be done is let go of.
Whether its love or a career or friendship, sometimes the best thing we can do is to end that part of our life with a period and start a new chapter.
Did I apply it in my life ?
Well Yes !
Earlier I was too attached with the materialistic things. I had people and things whom I loved and lived my life gently. But I always felt bad when someone who mattered most to me left. But then eventually I realized, the best thing that I can do is to let go of the things that were not for me. And when I realized and followed this, I felt and saw the change in myself. A positive change. A change that made me feel good about myself and the life. A change that actually brought the change.
So in the end only three things matter !